6 Topics for “Attractive “Conversation with Women
By Bobby Rio, author of Make Small Talk Sexy
Whenever men seem to get to the point in a conversation with a woman where it reaches an awkward silence – something that anyone who has time in the dating world knows, happens quite often – they always resort to the same style of conversation: Rapid-fire interrogation. These quick questions about the woman’s life (“What school did you go to?”, “Where are you from?”, “What do you do?”) never lead anywhere, usually causing the woman to be bored and looking for the next topic of conversation.
Instead of falling into that trap when talking to women, here are 6 different conversation topics you can use to keep the awkward silences to a minimum while keeping the excitement of the conversation to a maximum.
1. Speak your passions
More than anything else, pushing a conversation topic in the direction of your own passion is the best way to keep a conversation going. Instead of thinking too much about trying to maintain the conversation, by talking about your own passions you can just begin to have fun and show your excitement about the topic at hand. This will not only show your own intelligence – since you’re talking about your passion, you’ll automatically know about it – but also give the woman a glimpse into your own emotion and excitement. Women are always looking for this in a man.
In the same way, if the woman begins talking about her own passion, ask her about it even if it’s not your own passion. This will allow her to feel excited while talking to you (something that is never a bad thing) and give her a chance to talk about herself, offering clues as to her personality that you can come back to later on in the conversation.
2. Observe your surroundings
Something I always enjoy doing when I’m talking to a woman at a bar is observing the surrounding people with her and making stories about everyone. This will not only show your creative side, but also allow you to get a grasp of her sense of humor, something that will help with future conversations later on in the night.
3. Your youth
Childhood is a time that stays with everyone forever and something we all can relate to, so speaking about your own experiences at a child not only allows her a window into your own soul, but also gives her a chance to relate with some of her own experiences. Feel free to go down this path of reminiscing to open up the topic of conversation.
4. Travel talk
While everyone loves to talk about travel, the important thing to keep in mind here is to get her to talk about travel, not you. You don’t want to look like you’re showing off or some off as someone trying too hard. Instead, use this as an opportunity to learn more about her beliefs, feelings, cultural awareness, etc.
5. Self-analysis
When talking about anything, whether it be your passions or your childhood, it is important to shade any story in a way where you “learn something from it”. This will once again give you an opportunity to show your depth of thought while also opening up various streams of conversation topics by adding an extra layer of subject matter to the conversation at hand.
6. Pop culture
If you need a conversation placeholder – something to keep the conversation from stumbling into an awkward silence without resorting to that interrogation mode – then feel free to discuss about the various pop culture things that are going on at the time. But make sure not to stay on this topic too long, or she will quickly become bored with it. And you.
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Would You Date Someone Your Friends Hated?
You’re in love and want the whole world to know it! Except that all of your favorite people in the world — your friends — simply can’t stand the object of your affection. What next? A male and a female writer weigh in.
By Diana Vilibert and Abraham Lloyd
He said: Dates are very personal choices, and as friends we sometimes forget that. We have a tendency to look at the people our friends date as if they were picked out of a lineup, thinking about all the other people you could have had and compare them to the one you chose to be with. Sometimes, who we select fails to live up to the standards and expectations that our friends have for us. Who hasn’t heard their friends say “Do you think this is going to go anywhere,” “Well if you’re happy then I’m happy,” or the ever popular “I just think you can do better than him”? Honestly, who hasn’t known a friend that dated someone you were less than thrilled with?
Let me start with the obvious. We get to date whomever we want. If your friends are just that, then they will accept your choices the way that you accept theirs. All relationships have some kind of boundaries; not the kind that should never be broken, but the kind that need permission to be. It is important to have these with your friends — especially if you are happy with your selection from the dating pool. Appreciate the fact that they have an opinion, but recognize that you can ask them not to share it — especially if you do not agree with them.
Friends should have the ability to disagree comfortably, and at times do not even need to like each other. Friends do, however, need to put their personal feelings associated with a given situation below the loyalty, responsibility, and trust that exists with each other. If they cannot do this, then they are probably not friends. Friends accept. They listen. Hopefully you have these in your life, and if you do — make sure that you listen to them when you need to.
Sometimes, we deliberately choose to do something that is not good for us. In the context of relationships, these choices appear with clever titles like “Mr. Wrong,” “Mr. Right Now,” and the mercurial “Mr. Random.” Consider that your friends may hate your partner because they know you and what you want. They may see, no matter how much fun you may be having, that your relationship is going to go nowhere. They may also see, no matter how much you might deny it, that time with your partner may do you more harm than good.
If your friends express feelings of dislike towards your partner and are protective in their posture, appreciate these feelings are usually rooted in affection for you — rightly or wrongly. No one enjoys watching a friend crash and burn in a relationship, especially when they think that they can see it coming and feel that you cannot. If your friends are afraid for you, then guess what — you should probably listen to them. Life is riddled with tragedies of failed relationships that ended in painful, hurtful, and somewhat avoidable ways. While everyone has a right to crash and burn on their own, that does not necessarily make it a great decision.
She said: We’ve all had the experience of introducing a new significant other to friends and hearing “… well, I’m glad he makes you happy.” Or the collective sigh of relief from your group the minute you break up with someone.
I’ve definitely been there. My friends haven’t always been thrilled with my romantic choices, and I can’t say that I’ve loved every significant other of theirs that I’ve met. But we generally keep mum for the duration of the relationship, acting friendly to the not-my-cup-of-tea boyfriend. So would I listen if a friend piped up and said she hated my boyfriend? Depending on the friend, I sure as heck would … because it would mean that she sees a giant red flag that I don’t.
There’s a huge difference between a friend expressing her concern over, say, how rudely your boyfriend talks to you, and a friend who is aghast that he doesn’t always pick up the dinner tab. I’m likely to put more weight on the opinions of my friends whose opinions and experience in relationships are most in line with mine.
That said, your romantic life is your own, and if you want to hook up with your ex yet again, then no amount of eye-rolling from your friends should stop you. You friends want what’s best for you, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they know what’s best for you. Then again, we don’t always either.
On the Soapbox: Abraham Lloyd is a divorced dad, closet geek, and aspiring author dating in New York City. He believes all men should own at least five jackets, know how to dance, and pay on a first date. You can tweet him at twitter.com/abrahamlloyd. Diana Vilibert is Marie Claire‘s Web Editor, a chronic oversharer, closet romantic, and blind-date addict. You can e-stalk her at diana-vilibert.tumblr.com. //
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.
fully adopted from MSN Relationship!
Ukraine suspends election result pending probe
A court in Ukraine has suspended the result of the country’s presidential election. The legal body has agreed to consider a challenge by the vanquished Prime Minister Julia Tymoshenko. Tymoshenko lodged the complaint at the court in person. She alleges that supporters of winner Viktor Yanukovich rigged the vote at several hundred polling stations. However, many Ukraine watchers believe the result will stand and not hamper the inauguration of Yanukovich as president on February 25. Tymoshenko’s slender coalition government is now under pressure as Yanukovich backers in parliament are trying to gain the support of other parties to form a new union and force a vote of no confidence in Tymoshenko. Yanukovich won the election in early February by a margin of 890,000 votes.
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Afghans die but NATO offensive continues
NATO rocket fire killed 12 Afghan civilians on Sunday as ‘Operation Moshtarak’ continued to target Taliban strongholds.
Two missiles are said to have struck a house in error.
Thousands of US, UK and Afghan forces are involved in this major offensive. They have encountered pockets of resistance, fighting off sniper attacks as they moved deeper into Marjah. The town is seen as the lynchpin of the militants’ logistical and opium-smuggling network in Helmand province.
US Brigadier General Larry Nicholson said he thought things were going very well.
“It is only day two and we don’t want to get ahead of ourselves. We are optimistic. We are on timeline. We have been surprised by the amount of IEDs we have found. There has been no shortage of IEDs, probably even more than we thought.”
The idea is to seize the insurgent-held areas before a planned 2011 troop drawdown. The hope is that the 100,000 or so people in the region will then welcome the Afghan administration.
One local said: “This morning when they knocked on my door to carry out a search, I saw Afghan National Army soldiers leading and Americans following them. The operation is going well. It is well planned.”
Coalition forces have so far had two casualties – one Briton and an American. News of the civilian deaths underlines the difficulties of a military mission fought in populated areas.
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At least eight killed in terror attack in India
At least eight people have been killed in a bomb blast in a packed restaurant in the Indian city of Pune.
The explosion happened in the evening when the popular German Bakery was packed with customers – four foreign women are reported to be among the victims.
The restaurant is to a cultural centre for Orthodox Jews, who have been targetted in attackes in India in the past.
33 people are reported injured. It is the first major terror incident in India since attacks in Mumbai two years ago killed 166 people.
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NATO troops launch major Afghanistan offensive
HELMAND PROVINCE, Afghanistan –NATO troops in Afghanistan launched their biggest offensive of the war early Saturday, attacking what they call the last Taliban stronghold in a war-scarred southern province.
Military officials said the offensive—dubbed Operation Moshtarak— got under way at 2 a.m. (4:30 p.m. ET Friday). By about 8 a.m. (10 p.m. ET Friday) two firefights had erupted between the Taliban and U.S. Marines in Marjah.
The offensive turned a main bazaar near the city center into a ghost town after residents were warned to leave the area. NATO forces said they are following a directive not to shoot at civilians, some of whom are still on the streets.
“Insurgents who do not accept the government’s offer to reintegrate and join the political process will be met with overwhelming force,” the International Security Assistance Force Joint Command said in a statement. “However, the strongest of measures will be taken to protect the civilian population.”
Some of about 15,000 troops from the United States, United Kingdom, Canada and Afghanistan attacked Taliban targets in and around Marjah, a city of 80,000 to 100,000 where the Taliban has set up a shadow government, coalition military authorities said.
“Marjah is the last enemy sanctuary in the Marine area of operations,” said Brig. Gen. Larry Nicholson, 2nd Marine Expeditionary Brigade-Afghanistan commanding general. “This operation is designed to reconnect the people of Marjah with the legitimate government of Afghanistan. We are fully partnered with the Afghan government for this operation, and we have the resources we need to be successful.”
The Afghan government described the offensive – carried out in central Helmand with the Afghan National Army, Afghan National Police, ISAF Regional Command (South), and the Helmand Provincial Reconstruction Team – as “clearing” operations. Moshtarak, a Dari word for “together,” symbolizes the fact that combined forces are serving alongside one another.
The coalition said its troops expected to confront up to 1,000 entrenched Taliban fighters. It expected foreign Taliban fighters to battle to the death but is prepared for local Taliban members in Marjah to try to escape.
“We will follow the enemies and bring them to justice,” said Gen. Mohiyiden Ghori of the Afghan National Army.
In the past few days, forces from Afghanistan, Britain and other nations have conducted air and ground operations to prepare for the assault and dropped leaflets in and around Marjah warning residents not to allow the Taliban to
enter their homes.
The allies had been unusually vocal in describing their plans for the assault. (Related: Why the military publicized operations)
“I think there’s a certain strength in the Pashtunwali culture just from laying it out there in saying, ‘Hey, we are coming. Deal with it,’” U.S. Marine Gen. Larry Nicholson has said.
Some of the 30,000 additional U.S. troops that President Barack Obama sent to Afghanistan will take part in the fight.
The goal is to force the Taliban from Marjah so that people there can live free of Taliban influence and drug traffickers in a province with a major source of the world’s opium. It’s an example of a U.S. strategy to focus on population centers and separate the Taliban from Afghan civilians. (Related: Why Marjah, why now?)
“It’s about the security of the population, not fighting down insurgent numbers,” British Gen. Gordon Messenger has said.
About 3,000 U.S. Marines are involved in the fight.
The advance notice given to residents will help avert civilian casualties, a problem that has hurt the military’s credibility among Afghans. They are also trying to get those Taliban who aren’t hard-core to turn in themselves and their weapons.
Reaching the battleground could be one of the biggest challenges for NATO and Afghan troops. It’s a tough terrain hard to cross with tanks.
The town of Marjah is surrounded by a deadly ring of roadside bombs, military officials say.
They say the Taliban has had months to plant bombs in the ground, most of them homemade mixes of ammonium nitrate, shrapnel fuel, salt or flour.
Such bombs have caused about 80 percent of the deaths in past fighting in Helmand province, military officials said. They are detonated remotely or by pressure plates.
“This is possibly the largest IED threat NATO has ever faced,” Nicholson has said.
Massive armored vehicles, called assault breacher vehicles, were to lead the charge into Marjah, coalition authorities said before the offensive.
The tank-like vehicles can destroy roadside bombs. Even with their help, though, military officials have increased staff at the hospital at Camp Bastion, in the capital of Helmand province, in anticipation that roadside bombs would cause casualties.
Troops also expect to encounter booby-trapped houses, as well as fierce urban combat.
fully Adopted from CNN’s Afghanistan Crossroads
U.S. dismisses Iranian uranium enrichment claims
WASHINGTON (Reuters) – Washington on Thursday dismissed Iranian claims of a leap forward in uranium enrichment and expressed concern that Iran appeared to have “unplugged” Google and other Internet service providers.
The White House did not comment directly on Iranian opposition reports of clashes with security forces on the anniversary of the 1979 Islamic Revolution.
“We continue to monitor events as they happen and try to get the best available information, understanding that a lot of media, Google and other Internet services, have been basically unplugged,” White House spokesman Robert Gibbs told reporters.
Separately, U.S. State Department spokesman P.J. Crowley accused Iran of imposing a “near total” blockade on the flow of information in the country, calling it a draconian step.
It was not immediately clear whether the two officials were basing their comments on media reports or independently verified information.
Any clampdown on the Internet would likely fuel tensions between Iran and the international community. The United States and its allies are moving forward with a package of sanctions to punish Iran for its defiance over its nuclear program.
Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad told a rally marking the 31st anniversary of the Islamic Revolution in Tehran that Iran was able to enrich uranium to more than 80 percent purity, but again denied Iran was seeking to build an atomic bomb.
He also said Iran had produced its first batch of higher-enriched uranium fuel, two days after Iran announced the start of the project to increase the enrichment to 20 percent from 3.5 percent.
White House spokesman Gibbs rejected Ahmadinejad’s assertions, saying Iran had “made a series of statements that are … based on politics not on physics.”
“The Iranian nuclear program has undergone a series of problems throughout the year. Quite frankly what Ahmadinejad says … he says many things and many of them turn out to be untrue,” he said.
“We do not believe they have the capability to enrich to the degree to which they now say they are enriching.”
GMAIL, HOTMAIL
Gibbs said Iran’s resistance to a fuel swap deal brokered by the International Atomic Energy Agency fueled suspicions about the intent of its nuclear program, which Iran insists is for the peaceful generation of electricity.
He said Washington and its allies were looking at a phased approach to imposing new sanctions on Iran, including a U.N. Security Council resolution.
The United States and the other permanent members of the council — Russia, China, Britain and France — have not yet agreed on the way forward. China, which has close economic ties to Iran, has stood apart from the other major powers in calling new sanctions premature.
“This is a process that has a ways to go before we have consensus with the Chinese,” a senior U.S. administration official told Reuters, speaking on condition of anonymity.
France’s U.N. ambassador said world powers discussing possible new sanctions against Iran should wait for China if necessary.
“It’s totally essential to work with the Chinese, even if it means waiting a bit,” Gerard Araud told an audience of academics, students and diplomats at New York’s Columbia University.
Crowley said a diplomatic solution with Iran was still possible but that Tehran’s unwillingness to “engage constructively” had led Washington and its allies to consider pressuring it with further sanctions.
He said the Iranian government’s apparent decision to restrict Iranians’ access to the Internet could backfire.
“When a government goes to the extraordinary step of taking down its phone network, both, you know, landlines and mobile, and when it takes down its satellite television capability, it’s not only jeopardizing its relationships with those who seek a different kind of relationship with government, they are probably also alienating their supporters as well.”
Google said it had experienced a sharp drop in e-mail traffic in Iran and that some users in the country were having trouble accessing its Gmail e-mail service.
An Obama administration official said Google had not approached the U.S. government about any problems with its service in Iran.
Microsoft said the company had not experienced any disruptions to its Hotmail e-mail service in Iran.
(Additional reporting by Bill Rigby and Arshad Mohammed; Editing by Peter Cooney)
